My Top 5 Father’s Day Gift Ideas

Lifestyle

Fathers Day is this Sunday and seeing as it’s the hubby’s first, I have been trying to find the best gift to offer on behalf of our little angel (and me I guess).

Because I got quite a fab Mother’s Day gift (he read a blogpost I wrote and knew what I wanted), I knew that I couldn’t just settle on the typical gifts that fathers tend to get on this special day ( not that there’s anything wrong with these either). Anyways, like a lot of online shoppers, I love the website http://www.notonthehighstreet.com because it does exactly what it was on the tin. If I can be honest, I literally spent around 2 hours browsing the site because it has long lists of pages and I wanted to make sure I clicked on each in fear of missing out on the perfect gift. I can’t be the only one guilty of this, right?!
Anyways, mummy and homely duties were awaiting me, as well as a 3,000 word university assignment I’m struggling to write so I had to get a grip and narrow it down to my top 5.


1. Personalised Football Team History Book – £50: most men are football fans and mine is no exception. His favorite team is Arsenal (I have my own personal opinions on this) so I thought this would be a perfect gift for any footy dads out there. The book includes actual news stories about the ram, with actual newspaper reports, dating as for back as the 1990s. Oooh and they’ve also got one for American football!


2. Personalised Father’s Day Photo Frame – £29.50: I’m really into photo frames and use them as part of my home decor to get a more homely feel. This gift will be perfect to frame that special moment captured in a picture. The frames come in various size options that can be positioned and personalised in a portrait or landscape orientation.

3. Personalised Cuflinks £29: last weekend we attended a friend’s wedding and I must say I love a man in a nice shirt and suit. These cuff links are perfect for those special occasions or even for the office dad who wears a suit everyday. And…they can be personalised with the children’s names and date of births (provided you only have 2, hahahah)!

4. Father’s Day Mug £9.95: like most, I have no problems with giving and receiving traditional gifts parents tend to get on their respective days and a mug is one of those. I thought this ‘World’s Best Dad’ mug would do the trick and is very affordable for those on a budge, which is a plus.

5. A letter to Daddy Poem Print £14: for those who want to let their dads know how much they are loved in poem form, this gift is perfect. What more, the poem can be personalised and the price is not bad.

So there you have it. I haven’t decided which one to get just yet because I really want to get all of them but I might settle for one or two.

For all my father followers, I wish you all an amazing Father’s Day. Know always that you are loved and appreciated.

P.S. this is not a sponsored post. It is 100% my own opinions and views on the products.

Love,

Lilia

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7 Reasons We All Need Sudocrem 

Lifestyle, motherhood

I’m pretty sure every mum in the UK..and maybe elsewhere as well, has a tub of Sudocrem Antiseptic Healing Cream at home to use in case of baby rash. What I didn’t know and you may have not know however is that this cream is useful for so many other things. 

I bought the cream as you do when I gave birth and used it a couple of times when it seemed as though the little lady had a nappy rash but other than that it’s pretty much been sitting untouched amongst the baby stuff. It wasn’t until a few days ago that someone suggested that I use it on my daughter’s eczema rash around her neck that I finally came to appreciate its healing powers. I’ve mentioned in past posts that my girl has very dry skin and as of late she’s developed what the doctors describe as eczema on her neck which is the worst place to have a rash or anything for that matter because the area is often wet and now that she’s started teething, it’s usually covered in saliva. 

Less than a week ago, I started using the cream around her neck after her bath and I can honestly say the rash/eczema is gone. To think I wasted money on expensive creams….

Sudocream is said to be good for the skin because it has anhydrous hypoallergenic lanolin which is an emollient that helps to not only soothe the skin but also soften it. The Benzyl alcohol formula in the cream gives it its antiseptic properties. 

Here are just some of the benefits of using this healing cream: 

1. Nappy Rash – as I previously said most people know this cream for its effectiveness in healing nappy rash. It works as an emollient and is clinically proven to soothe and heal babies’ delicate skin. It also soothes sore and inflamed skin. 

2. Anaesthetic- not only are the ingredients recognised for their healing properties, the cream also has a mild local anaesthetic which helps to ease pain and soothe any discomfort. 

3. Cuts & Minor Burns – Sudocrem is known to provide effective relief from everyday cuts and grazes as well as minor burns. It reduces the risk of infection by forming a protective layer over the wound.

4. Acne & Other Skin Conditions – the inexpensive cream can also be used as a mask to treat skin conditions such as acne. I have to say that it’s very thick and can feel heavy on the face but it’s worth it. Your face will feel soft and smooth as a baby’s bottom (pun intended)! 

5. Eczema – funnily enough, it does say on the tub that it can be used for eczema but I somehow missed that until now. Because this conditions can cause cracked and sore skin that can be painful and difficult to keep hydrated, Sudocrem can be used to calm, soothe and heal the eczema. 

6. Cracked Heels – summer is upon us (well…almost) and that means less Boots and more sandals. For softer heels,apply thecream, put socks on, and allow to seep in overnight. 

7. Primer – this is a beauty hack I wasn’t aware of before but applying a tad bit of Sudocrem as a primer before applying makeup will provide the skin with a thin barrier so that the foundation can be applied without sinking into pores. It’s rather thick so only a small amount is necessary for a matte finish.
This just goes to show that it’s not always about fancy, pricey products to get the job done. Sometimes it’s the very thing sitting in your cabinet you’ve been ignoring. 

Love,

Lilia 

How I’m Being More Organised

Lifestyle

When I first started blogging, I made a deal with myself to write and post at least twice a week and I was keeping to this deal until recently when everything started happening at once and I’ve been left overwhelmed. 
Baby girl recently had a virus which lasted about two weeks and on top of this I have gone back to school to complete my second degree (why do I do this to myself right?) and with everyday life being super mum, super partner,etc. I’m literally left wishing there were more hours to the day than simply 24 hours. Of course that won’t happen so I while I can’t do anything about that, I have found a way to be more organised and stay afloat. 

1. Batch Write – now that I think about it, I’m sure most bloggers already do this but hey ho. I usually just write a pice and post it and do the same again when I feel inspired/in the mood to write. This does mean that my posts are never scheduled which I think they should now be. I’ve therefore decided to start writing 2-3 post in one sitting so that when everything gets on top of me, I can just post what I already have at my disposal. Smart, right!

2. Schedule EVERYTHING – batch writing won’t happen if I don’t actually have a clear schedule of when it should be happening. This is the case for everything in my life right now so I have decided to have certain days to do certain things, for example Mondays are for laundry and Saturdays are food shopping and so on and so forth. 

3. Buy a planner – I’d like to think I have a very good memory. I mean I remember dates like a computer and I hardly forget things that need to be done BUT ever since I’ve become a mum I’ve realised that I can’t always rely on my memory because things happen so often and so quickly that I’m now forgetting some of the things that need doing, like making sure I don’t miss a GP’s appointment or remembering to make an important call. 

4. Stop Procrastinating – as much as I know this is a terrible habit I have to admit that I sometimes procrastinate…..A LOT. This is not so much on small things that take little time to do but on big things that I know I need to do like folding and ironing the never ending mountain of laundry, blogging and doing my university work. I need Jesus to help me at this point, really!!!

5. Make the most of baby’s down time – my baby’s been napping like a G these days. I don’t want to jinx it but she’s having like hour and a half hour naps during the day and of course she goes down at around 8pm at night. As much as I’d like to consider this to be my ‘me’ time, I understand that I can’t spend it all watching Real Housewives of Atlanta (unfortunately). I’ve now started dedicating an hour or two at night to doing some school work and preparing for assignments in advance so I’m not doing everything last minute. 

6. Make time for family – the other day I was telling the hubby about all the things I need to do and plan to do and he replied by asking where he and the baby fit in all this and I can’t lie, it made me feel really guilty. Plus I’ve found out that his love language is quality time (just my luck). I now need to make sure that I acknowledge his love language and schedule quality, uninterrupted time like going for walks, having a picnic, making sure we all eat together as a family, etc. On top of that  I’ve decided that Sundays are for uninterrupted family time just to put the cherry on top!

I’d love to hear tips from other mums about being more organised as parents, wives, businesswomen, etc because I’m trying to be this woman who slays at every aspect of her life so holla at your girl.

Love,

Lilia 

Why I Really Wanted A Boy

Lifestyle, motherhood, Relationships

I’m the oldest of a combined eleven children (yes, you read that right!) from both parents and if God asked for my choice, I’d choose to have an older brother. Why, well I know I could not have an older sister because I doubt we’d get on much but an older brother always seemed like a good idea. He’s be my protector, he’d fight for me and he’d hurt any boy who dared break my heart, hahah (no, but seriously)! 

Anyways, my wish to have an older brother was pretty impossible because let’s be honest, had my parents had me when they were teenagers so having older siblings could not happen because I was it! So why did I do? I wished for the next best thing and that was to have a son first. If God was listening, I figured I might as well ask Him although I was sure I’d be happy either way! 

This was true until a month before I found out I was pregnant, I buried my 18 year old brother who was murdered in a knife crime. He had just turned 18 so evidently his death sent me in a dark place. Not just because of its untimeliness but also because he was 10 years younger than me. I couldn’t and still cannot fathom the idea of such a young life being lost. I sometimes feel guilty that I get to live and he will never get to be my age or older. 

So when I found out a month after his death that I was pregnant, I saw it as a sign that this was God’s doing and that I would be having a boy…to compensate for my brother’s death somehow. Now that I think about it I understand how crazy it sounds but grieving does crazy things to a person and although I didn’t know it then, that was my way of trying to come to terms or make sense of his death. 

I was so sure that I was having a boy that I completely disregarded the 50% possibility that it might actually be a girl. I started referring to my bump as he/him and if anyone asked if I knew what I was having, I’d pretty much say I think it’s a boy! 

To further cement my belief, I would only search for boy baby names and eventually settled on the name that I knew for a fact I’d name my son when he was born. From then on, I started referring to the bump by its boy name!

Being as it was my first child and seeing as I ‘knew’ its gender, I wasn’t particularly bothered with finding out the baby’s gender but the hubby wanted to know so he could start buying clothes and stuff ( there was very little unisex colours for some reasons) and so I thought hey, for confirmation sake…why not! 

My anomaly (and opportunity for a gender reveal) scan was at 21 weeks and unfortunately the baby didn’t want to open its legs so we were rebooked for another scan at 23 weeks because the sonologist ( I think that’s what they’re called) wasn’t able to check for everything at the time anyway. 

We were back again two weeks later and for some reason I started feeling a bit nervous. I mean yes I believed I was having a boy but what if I wasn’t? Lo and below I was informed with a 90% certainty that I was having a GIRL! It hurts me to say this now but my heart completely sank. It wasn’t the news I was expected. Damn it, it wasn’t the news I wanted. I had just lost my brother and found out I was pregnant a month later so it could only be a boy because it was God giving me back what He had taken from me…..surely!

I hardly spoke again that day and later that evening, I cried like I’ve never ever cried before in my whole entire life. I cried because I finally realised I had to accept that my brother was gone and that he wasn’t coming back. Yes, he had only just turned 18 years and yes it was so unfair that he wasn’t given an opportunity to live a full life but he was gone and the baby boy that I was holding on to….in memory of him wasn’t actually a boy. How could God do this to me!!

I then cried some more because I felt guilty. Guilty because my now daughter might think that I wasn’t happy to be having her when God knows I was. I’d always known I’d be a mum and to have that come true was the biggest blessing of my life. I cried because I was acting entitled and ungrateful. Maybe I blamed God for not protecting my brother enough and therefore it was only right that He redeem Himself! I have spoken to the Man upstairs about this and asked for forgiveness since then, but at the time this was my thinking.

I remember telling my dad the news and he said he had a feeling all along I didn’t understand why he want just as upset but what he said to me changed my perspective completely. My dad told me that we are but souls and souls do not have a sexy/gender. God did just what I asked Him. He gave me a soul for the one that was lost and the truth is that He wasn’t obligated to do it. He didn’t have to bless me with such an enormous blessing but He did. From then on, I was just happy that I was having a healthy and happy baby. 

I was also able to finally grieve my brother properly and accept what had happened. He wasn’t coming back but he’s a soul and souls never die and so he’s within and amongst us always. 

More than anything now, I’m grateful that I get to raise a woman. A future wife and mother. I’m so fortunate to be entrusted with such a responsibility and yes I now want twin boys next ( I already put in my request with God) but it has nothing to do with my brother anymore and if God had other plans, I’d be just as happy as I am now. I love my daughter so much and I couldn’t imagine having any other way. 

Love,

Lilia 

Most Common Baby Rash

Lifestyle, motherhood

I’ve mentioned a few times that my daughter has very dry and sensitive skin. From birth, we have been dealing with one skin condition or another and I wanted to write this post because I know a lot of mums can relate to my frustration when it comes with baby skin issues. 

As a new mum, I was unfamiliar with a lot of the skin conditions babies are born with or develop soon after birth. I’d heard of conditions like eczema but because I’d not had an direct connections to it, I was pretty much ignorant about it. My daughter had surely changed that in the last five months.  

I have quickly learned that it’s perfectly normal for babies to develop rashes as their skin is sensitive from birth, however what I have always done and would always advise any mummy to do is to seek help if you’re worried. Sometimes what may look like a simple rash may be the beginning of something more serious like meningitis so always seek help if you’re concerned and/or unsure. You would not believe the amount of GP calls and visits I have made in the past five months but peace of mind is everything and to be honest I’d rather annoy my GP and Health Visitor than take any chances with my baby’s health and wellbeing. 
Now that the disclaimer is out of the way, here is my list of the most common rashes to grace your baby’s skin:

1. Baby Acne – I was very shocked to find that my baby’s skin wasn’t as perfect as I’d expected when she developed acne. I honestly thought it was a puberty issue exclusively reserved for teenagers and above but the joke was on me, clearly! Baby acne came in the form of pimples on my baby’s cheeks, nose and forehead. I have to admit it got worse before it got better but although initially I thought I had to buy some super cream, I was advised and also found out from experience that the acne clears out within weeks. I kept her face clean with just water and cotton. 

2. Cradle Cap – this is the bane of my mummy existence, for real, for real! I didn’t know what cradle cap was prior to having a baby. Imagine my horror when I saw scabs on my newborn’s head. That, coupled with the acne, I was certain I had failed as a mummy. I will dedicate a whole post on cradle cap and how to treat it because by now I’m a bloody expert but for now, I’d describe it as whitish/yellowy scaly patches on the head and forehead. This appeared after her first month and has been affecting on and off ever since. I treat it by putting coconut oil and brushing it off with a soft brush. 

3. Eczema- this is more of a long term condition and when my daughter’s skin problems first started, I initially thought that it was eczema but fortunately for us it wasn’t. Eczema causes the skin to become itchy, red, dry and mainly affects babies and children but can continue into adulthood. It’s not curable but there are special creams and ointments to help manage this condition. 

4. Nappy Rash – this is an irritation of the skin and will most likely affect 99.9% (I made up the stats) of babies. A nappy rash is caused by prolonged exposure to wee or poo. I try to change my daughter every 2/3 hours and normally leave her without a nappy for a few minutes after every change so her skin dries off properly. I swear by Sudocrem for her nappy area. It’s important to note that fungal infections can also cause a nappy rash. 

5. Heat Rash – because my daughter was born in November and because my African family are allergic to the cold, my mother-in-law would make me turn up my radiator to full mode. I kid not, that’s the first thing she’d do when she came to visit and vice versa ( she still does)! I know she means well and of course babies get cold but they also can get over heated and get a rash as a result. A heat rash flares up when a baby sweats, signalling blocked sweat glands. They appear as tiny reddish bumps. They tend clear up soon enough on their own but I also use baby powder on her chest abs neck because the girl can dribble!


There are many more rashes that affect newborn and babies in general but these are the ones that I’ve personally experienced so it’s only fair that I don’t write about something I have no knowledge of or experience in. I’d love to hear from other mummies who have similar issues with their babies skins and other rashes that may affect babies that I haven’t mentioned. 


Also, the best thing that has worked for my daughter’s dry skin so far is ZeroDouble emollient and Shea butter. The more common Cetraben cream didn’t work for her but a lot of mums swear by it for dry skin. I get my emollient free from the pharmacy on prescription and use it a few times a day when I spot a dry patch on her skin. 

Love,

Lilia

Best Sun Protection For Babies 

Lifestyle, motherhood

The weather this past weekend was just too delicious for words. It hardly ever really gets hot enough that my family and I go out for a picnic but seeing as it was Sunday and the heat was giving me my entire life, the hubster and I decided to make a day of it and have a full blown picnic with the baby.

While the weather was great, I have to admit that I mostly kept under the shade to avoid little madam getting too exposed to the sun. Hubby laughed when I suggested a sunscreen lotion for her because in his African mind, babies with dark skin do not need sunscreen. I of course took this opportunity to school him on the dangers of sun exposure to any and every skin type and I’m proud to report that I’ve succeeded in changing his views.….maybe!

Being the research junkie that I am, I took this as a cue to look into the best sunscreen lotions out there for babies and below are my top finds:

Solait Moisturising Baby Lotion SPF50+ –This lotion is from Superdrug’s Solait suncare range. It is dermatologically tested and is suitable for babies with sensitive skin which my daughter has so already it ticks a very important box for me. The only downside is that it doesn’t contain as many natural ingredients as some of the other sun creams which is a shame because it’s good value for money at only £3.49 for the 100ml bottle. 

Nivea Sun Kids Pure & Sensitive Sun Spray SPF50 

A lot of us already use skincare products from this brand so it’s nice to see that they also cater to babies skin. The sunscreen lotion is fragrance, preservative and colour free, making it very baby-friendly. Being that it’s a somewhat of a named brand, it’s also good value for money at £8.99 for a 200ml bottle in Superdrug. 

Mustela Baby Very High Protection Sun Lotion SPF50 

Mustela is a French brand that specialises in natural products that are gentle on skin prone to conditions such as eczema and psoriasis. My daughter has very sensitive, dry skin and I was first introduced to this brand by family members who swear by their skincare products for babies. I’m yet to try Mustela products but knowing that they also do sun lotions makes me more likely to give them a cry. I’m very much inclined to try them. Mustela specialises in natural products that are gentle on skin prone to atopic conditions such as eczema and psoriasis. It’s also water resistant and suitable from birth. 

As with most research, I have come across debates for and against using sunscreen lotions on babies under 6 months. Some say it may not be safe as they’re too little whilst others say it is ok. My daughter is only 5 months old and I don’t know if we’ll get another sunny day out before she turns six months but if we do, I think I’ll go with the Mustela as it’s safe to use from birth. Unfortunately it’s not sold in U.K. shops but can be ordered online for around £15 for the 100ml bottle. 

Love,

Lilia 

Gestational Diabetes & How To Manage It

Lifestyle, motherhood

I’ve mentioned a few times in past posts  that I didn’t have the bestest (yes, i wrote that) of pregnancies in the history of pregnancies. it was my first pregnancy so there is nothing I can compare it to but from what I experienced, it was pretty crappy – to say the least.The one crappy thing (among many) was that I developed gestational diabetes.  

A little over half way through my pregnancy my midwife booked an appointment for me to do a glucose tolerance test to check for gestational diabetes. At the time I wasn’t worried because there is NO history of diabetes in my family so I didn’t even think I needed the test in the first place clearly I wasn’t at all educated about the condition and my midwife said it was highly recommended, especially to women of certain ethnic origins.
A lot of women don’t know about this condition until it happens so I thought I’d be helpful and give a little insight on what it is, what caused it and how to lower the risks of getting it, or at the very least how to manage it.

Gestational diabetes mellitus (GDM) is basically a condition where a mum-to-be who doesn’t otherwise have diabetes (like moi), develops high blood sugar levels during pregnancy. It is generally caused by your body not making up enough insulin to handle the build up of sugars caused by pregnancy hormones. It commonly occurs in the second trimester hence the reason why tests are carried out between weeks 24-28 of pregnancy. I think I did mine at week 24 or maybe 26 – I can quite remember now.

The condition normally affects those women whose body mass index (BMI) is 30+, those women who’ve had it in past pregnancies, those who’ve previously given birth to big babies, or those with family history of diabetes and lastly those of certain ethnic origins such as  Asian, Black, etc. – as was the case for me. 

I was required to fast for at least 12 hours the night before. The test itself consists of taking two blood samples to test my sugar levels before and after taking a sugary drink (Lucozade). I had to wait Two hours after drinking the solution before they could do the second blood test. 

Gestational diabetes is a serious condition as it can essentially cause problems for the mum and baby during and after birth in the following ways:

* baby growing larger than usual 

* premature birth or induction

* pre-eclampsia

* baby developing low blood sugar or (jaundice) after he or she is born. 

Because it can be hereditary, gestational diabetes can sometimes be impossible to avoid, however my main tips in lowering its risk and managing it are as follows:


1. A balanced diet – it is important to avoid skipping meals and s the only thing I could stomach to eat during my pregnancy. Also, although fruits is generally natural sugars, some fruits such as bananas and grapes should be limited if not avoided altogether.

2. CARBS – because carbs break into sugar, I was advised to eat as little of it as possible. It’s funny because throughout my pregnancy all I could eat was bread but hey ho!

3. Blood sugar levels – this got a bit (very) tedious after a while but it is vital that you check your levels, especially after meals determine which meals increase the levels, etc. 

4. Exercise – my mind really wanted to exercise but I was so tired throughout my pregnancy that it was near enough impossible to go to the gym. I generally enjoy walking and so that’s about all the exercise I could do but every little helps. 

5. Medication and insulin shots – if GD can be avoid just by eating right and exercising then that’s great but if like me you need the extra help, then medication and eventually insulin help to manage the diabetes. The medicine made me sick so I was eventually taken off it and put on insulin as a last resort. Injecting myself became second nature but I found doing it four times a day such a chore. 


The good news is that it does, or at least SHOULD go away after delivery. My blood sugar levels went back to normal within hours of delivering my daughter and a follow up test three months post-natal confirmed this. The downside was that my daughter was born with low blood sugar levels and she too had to do insulin shots every 2-3 hours from the moment she was born until the next day when her levels went back to normal. 

To any mum in this situation, the number one important thing to remember is that sometimes it’s inevitable, i.e. you can eat a balanced diet and exercise and still get it because of other factors beyond your control. Try not to feel bad or guilty and do your best to manage the condition as well as you can.

Love,

Lilia

7 Ways I Use Raw Shea Butter

Lifestyle

Although I have always moisturised my body with some sort of Shea butter body product or other, I was first introduced to natural unrefined Shea butter by the hubby who swears by the raw African Shea butter. 
I have to admit that I wasn’t a fan of the unrefined butter at first because I didn’t particularly like the smell (of lack of, actually) of it but when I got pregnant, I decided to use it more frequently and let me tell you it’s one of the best things you can put on your skin. 

Shea butter comes from the seeds of the fruit of the Shea (Karite) tree and is naturally rich in vitamins A, E and F. Although it is widely used in Africa and other countries as food and to improve skin and hair, I feel that some of us in the West are still in the dark about its many other uses and benefits. I initially started using Shea butter as a body butter but I have since found other uses and benefits of this super product:

1. Moisturiser – my skin tends to get really, really dry and I have tired many beauty store moisturisers that claim to work on dry skin and for some reasons they just don’t quite hit my dry skin spot like I need them to (see what I did there?!). Since I’ve started using Shea butter, my skin feels smooth, hydrated and soft. If like me you’re not a bog fan of the scent, you can add other oils such as lavender oil

2. Eczema – my daughter has inherited by dry skin and a couple of weeks after she was born, she had a mild case of baby eczema. I found that using unrefined Shea butter on the affected areas really helped clear the eczema away. She still has dry skin but thankfully no more eczema. It works just as great on most skin rashes.

3. Cradle Cap – on top of baby eczema, I also had cradle cap to deal with. This is basically scaly/scabby patches that appear on babies’ scalps. Because my baby’s skin is sensitive and my GP wanted me to avoid chemicals on her skin, etc, I was left with using both coconut oil and Shea butter for her hair. I’d message the butter on her head and leave it over night then gently brush it off the next day.

4. Stretch Mark Prevention – I swear by using Shea butter to prevent stretch marks during pregnancy. I used this everyday on my belly and i didn’t get a stretch mark….until my Shea butter ran out towards the end of my pregnancy and Mother Nature refused to let me be great. I am convinced had it not run out, it would have been a win for me…well, i’m starting to love my stripes anyway.

5. Tough & Cracked Heels – i love a good pedicure. My favourite part is when they peel off the hard skin on the heels. Wellll…I found out some time ago from one of the people I follow on Twitter that pedicures aren’t as great for your feet as I first believed. Did you know that peeling off your skin makes even tougher skin grow up. I guess it’s a way of your skin defending itself. Now, every night before bed, I put a generous amount of Shea butter on my feet and wear socks and it works. 

6. Shaving Cream – this is a recent discovery (must have read it somewhere). I tried this and it left my legs feeling so soft. The consistency is slightly thicker but it does the job so much better than most standard shaving creams

7. Hair – my hair is natural and a lot of the hair products I buy contain Shea butter but nothing compares to actually using the unprocessed butter. I use it mainly on my scalp as a conditioner or put it all over my hair for shorter, more manageable hair. It locks in moisture and prevents my hair from getting dry and frizzy. 


As you can see the raw butter is a bit hard at first but it can be melted for a more oily texture. 

Love,

Lilia 

My Mother’s Day Gift Wishlist Under £30

Lifestyle, motherhood

It’s Mother’s Day in a few days but most importantly it is my very first Mother’s Day and I feel like a kid Counting down the number of sleeps they go to Disneyland or something. I’m too excited it’s becoming ridiculous!a candy! 

It’s just dawned on me that aside from Valentine’s Day, my birthday and Christmas, I now have an extra day to be given a gift (cue the hubby rolling his eyes) and rightly so. I created life and then pushed her out to the world. It should be Mother’s Day everyday if you ask me! Seriously though, I always wondered what my very first Mother’s Day would be like and now it’s here and I can’t contain myself! Whilst I still don’t know what hubby and bubba have in store for me on the day – if anything at all, I certainly have a few ideas for the gifts I’d love to receive. 

I love bargain hunting and online shopping is such a godsend because being a new mum, I can’t always go out to shop so it’s great that I can pretty much type whatever on Google and get my retail therapy on. It was actually my mother’s birthday last week and whilst browsing the net for possible gift ideas, I came across this website http://www.findmeagift.co.uk. The website is kinda like notonthehighstreet.com but much I found that it was more affordable and suitable for bargain hunters like myself. They’ve even got a sale on Mother’s Day giftsI which is even great so I was able to look around andcome up with my top 5 gifts under £30 – perfect for those on a budget:

1. Wine Bottle Glass £16.99 – I stumbled across this bottle glass and immediately fell in love with it. I’m not much a of a drinker and even less so since I fell pregnant and had my baby but there are times when I’ve worked so hard taking care of my baby, hubby, the home, etc. that I just feel like murdering a glass of red wine, if not a whole bottle and with this gift you get to do both. #happydays

2. Bath Bubble Machine £11.99 – I love the idea of a bubble bath at the end of the day after  I’m done being supermum and just want some time to myself. I wouldn’t have thought of such a gift but when I saw it, it made me wanna take a bath so this could be a perfect gift for mummy dearest. 

3. Mum Definition Candle £9.99 – my mother is my absolute everything and when I see the way my daughter looks at me, I can just tell that I’m her absolute world too. I’m obsessed with candles and this gift is perfect for illustrating the many different hats mums wear and let them know they deserve the world. 

4. Personalised I Heart My Mummy Mug £9.99 – rightly or wrongly, we’ve all given our mums a mug at least once (or 3) on Mother’s Day. It may be a predictable and cliché gift but this mug is so cute that I wouldn’t even be mad if I got it as a gift. It’s a constant reminder to mummies how much they are loved. 

5. Farrero Rocher Chocolate Tree £26.99 – giving chocolate on Mother’s Day is kinda like the mug situation but who can say no to this piece of art?! Can we all agree that this is genius right here!I’m on a no sugar diet so I won’t be eating this but I can sure look at it all day! Plus, it looks too cute to eat anyway. 

I’m sure I’ll love whatever gift my little family gets me on Sunday but a mamma can sure wish!
P.S: this post is not sponsored or an ad

Love,

Lilia 

3 Reasons Why I Co-Sleep

Lifestyle, motherhood

I swore up and down that I wouldn’t co-sleep with my baby before I had her. If I’m honest, my reasoning had little to do with any health guidelines or recommendations but rather that I just didn’t want to share my bed. I was weary of the difficulties I could encounter when weaning her off my bed (can I say that?). Of course as any first time mums will agree – mum plans, baby laughs! When the baby is actually here, you find that they are boss and you’re happy to oblige. 
I know the debate to co-sleep or not to co-sleep is as serious as that of breastfeeding. I’ve heard mothers and other people debate both sides and I’ve read the guidelines for both arguments to better inform myself. While I’ve found that both sides to have valid arguments, I personally co-sleep for these 3 reasons:

1. Feeding – my daughter’s cot is in my room and will remain there until she’s at least one year old because I can’t bring myself to even think of her sleeping in a different room to me. I almost get paranoid at the thought. Nonetheless, she shares our end because I quickly found out that it is very convenient when doing the nighttime feeds. Granted, she awakes less these days but I don’t have to get out of my bed to feed her when she is up at night and that to me is amazing. Also, she uses a dummy and fusses when it comes out of her mouth (happens all the time), so I can’t imagine getting up and off my bed just to go put it back in her mouth 3-5 times a night. Plus, she sleeps better and longer so that means more sleep for mummy as well!

2. I Keep My baby Safe – I can just picture those against co-sleeping roll their eyes at this one but to me, having my baby sleeping next to me actually puts me in a protective mode. I’m not a heavy sleeper naturally anyway but I’m even more aware of her presence and of the environment around us when she’s sleeping with me. This means if she was in danger, I would be quick to act and that provides me with a sense comfort knowing that I’m right there next to her if she needs me. 

3. I Enjoy It – aside from the convenience and safety reasons, I actually love and enjoy having my baby sleep in the bed with me (much to her father’s disapproval). She has this habit of caressing my face in her sleep for comfort and this literally brings me joy. It’s like she just needs to feel for me to know that I’m there (how can I say no to that!). Also, nothing compares to waking up every morning and seeing her cute little face smiling at me. 

I am well aware of the dangers of co-sleeping so this post is not by any means to disregard the genuine and valid concerns. At the same time, it should be acknowledged that so many mothers out there co-sleep with their babies and I think it is important that we are not made to feel guilty for doing it as long as we’re taking the necessary precautions to ensure that it is done safely, i.e. One shouldn’t co-sleep if consuming alcohol or smoking and not sleeping on a couch, etc. 

Like any mother ou there, my daughter’s safety and wellbeing is at the forefront of my entire being. Another thing to keep in mind for those who criticise this way of sleeping is accepted and practiced safely in many cultures, so the default reaction to it shouldn’t be a negative one as many would agree that it also has its benefits. 

Love,

Lilia